5 Tools for Healing

Welcome to Mamahood After Trauma, a space created to support mothers as they heal from trauma, break generational cycles, and discover healthier ways of showing up for themselves and their families. Here, you’ll find honest conversations, practical tools, and encouragement to remind you that healing is possible, one step at a time.

Healing childhood trauma can be a daunting task and it can feel like it’s impossible to do.I know when I was at the beginning of my journey, I felt like it couldn’t be done but one step at a time and I started to make progress. Until the moment I had my first child and entered the transition into mamahood, I had accepted that my trauma was just going to hover over my head like a dark cloud wherever I went, regardless of what I did to work through it.However, mamahood changed things for me, just as it does for many women. It had awoken a part of me that I didn’t know existed. I was no longer doing the work for myself but I had a tiny human that deserved better than I had experienced growing up.One thing I’ve learned is that once you have the tools to help you, it becomes more doable. Figuring out what exactly the tools are that you need… well, that’s another story.I don’t know about you, but I didn’t have a clue what or where to start. For this reason, I’m sharing 5 of the tools that have been most helpful for me in the last 5 years.

Tool #1: Journaling

The goal here, is to give yourself an outlet– a place where you can express your feelings and get them out of your body without judgement. Journaling for me is my safe place. However it may not be the case for everyone. There are many ways to journal- writing in a notebook with or without a lock, voice notes either password protected or not, drawing... Anything that gives you an outlet.

Tool #2: Time in the Word (Bible)

Spending time in the Word of God is something that has immensely helped my healing journey. Trauma and who you’ve been told you are in your trauma are a stark contrast of who you were created to be by God. You were made in His Image. Spending time in the Word allows you time to get to know the person God created you to be.

Tool #3: Deep Breathing

As trauma survivors, we can have a habit of holding our breath but your breath as the incredible power of helping your nervous system switch from fight or flight to rest and digest in no time flat. When I first began learning how to do deep breathing, I found it crazy challenging because I felt like I couldn’t breath. It was like I was more winded than relaxed 😂😂 My suggestion- go slow and practice daily, even when you aren’t triggered.

Tool #4: Affirmations

When you’re able to identify what thoughts and beliefs are holding you back, you have the ability to reframe them and retrain your brain to think and belief differently. For example, one of the beliefs that I have worked to change is “I am stupid” this is something that I was told on repeat throughout the most intense period of the abuse I endured and it was something that played on repeat in my head. I went through the 5 steps of my belief framework and created affirmations that I spoke outloud to myself to help change my belief to a more empowering one.If you would like a free copy of “Steps to Believe in You” click the button below

Tool #5: Movement

Movement is a great way to allow built up energy out of your body. I have struggled for a long time with joint pain and stiffness which I believe is closely linked to repressed emotions so movement has been a great way for me to relieve pain and improve mobility.Mended Soul Wellness is all about helping trauma-surviving mamas connect with who they were created to be vs. who they were told to be in their trauma through resources, a supportive community and coaching so join the community of over 5000+ healing mamas! Join our email list here to ensure you don’t miss a thing!